Originally posted here . Our pastor recently talked about how he is more curious about the questions behind what people actually ask out loud than the questions themselves. He was talking about faith-based conversations, but I experience the need to practice this discipline more often when talking to adults about my husband and I parenting a child who has developmental delays. When we started our journey with our sweet now four-and-a-half year old, the following is a list of common questions and my knee-jerk mental reactions. I usually held my tongue pretty well, but not every time. Question : Wow, what a cute baby, how old is he? I would answer. Next question : He’s really small; was he premature? Thought: Why are you asking? Do you think we don’t feed him enough and your best fat-filled diet will be the next thing out of your mouth? Answer: No, he was two days overdue. Comment: Oh really? My child (or I) was… and…they/I caught up eventually, I’m sure he will too. Thought: Gee, t